Kurt – Recovery from porn and findom addiction

Understanding findom and kink addictions

Of course kink has a sense of taboo attached to it. Taboos are not in themselves bad. They can be healthy boundaries around privacy. But taboo and shame are two different things. While taboo refers to things we prefer to keep private, it does not imply that we are ashamed of them. For example, most people around the world masturbate and are not ashamed of it, yet they typically do not discuss it publicly. This is a matter of taboo, not of shame. However, taboo kan contribute to feelings of shame. And this happens when a kink has become a compulsion or addiction.

How coaching helps you

In terms of “people, places, things” I pinpoint elements that pose risks to your recovery and help you manage them. I am keenly aware how big an undertaking it can be to cut contact with some play partners when/if it turns out you need to. And am able to support you to follow through.

Risks can pop up suddenly and as coach I am there when you need it.

Through motivational interviewing and challenging your thoughts, I will help you gain a clear view of what role findom/kink plays in your life, and what role you need and want it to have.

I can guarantee that your patterns and preferences in active addiction will not surprise me or make me uncomfortable.

What I bring

As I am pro recovery, not against kink, I do not kink shame – in the words of the esteemed Dr. Stefani Goerlich: I won’t “yuck your yum”. My views on kink and findom do not enter into coaching. The coaching is to discover and work towards what a healthy life means to you. To what degree that life includes kink and findom is up to you.

Over a decade of lived experience on the addiction side of findom and other kinks has made me be both extremely open minded and well aware of the risks. I have also spent time on the responsible side of kink which has given me a balanced view.

It would be too much to list all the kinks but areas I particularly coach well in are:

• Findom addiction
• Debt
• Addiction fetish
• Homewrecking fetish
• Blackmail fetish
• Issues in the relationship and social sphere stemming from addiction
• Issues relating to sex work

Feedback I recieved on this coaching

Kurt often asked probing, thought-provoking questions and gave me an unbiased perspective on where I stood, clearly delineating the steps I needed to consider taking […]. He worked from a place of complete integrity, and sincere interest in my well-being, and he guided, supported, and encouraged me to achieve my goals in life.

Anonymous recoveree

If all this sounds like something you need, reach out to me below and let’s talk.